Like Father, Like Son

Biswadeep Ghosh

New Delhi: Have you spoken to your father and wished him a Happy Father’s Day? Have you expressed your gratitude for all that he has done for you? If not, maybe you should meet or call him up, and share a few private moments with him. Today being Father’s Day, you must remind him of his significance in your life, making him smile.

The celebration of Father’s Day is becoming increasingly popular in urban centres. The day was first observed in the United States way back in 1908, and people in major cities across India followed the same path much later.

The father’s mindset and personality traits make a significant impact on the son. When the latter becomes a father, he emulates many of his father’s qualities, either consciously or otherwise…

LESSONS ON LIFE

Time flies. We grow up into adults, get married and have children. Childhood memories continue to stay with us. Among them are those of the father, who, along with the mother, navigates us during our journey through life as youngsters.

Ashish Sinha, who works as the Secretary General at Broadcasting Content Complaints Council (BCCC), says, “My father departed quite early, but the lessons he left behind have been good enough to see me through the rest of my life. In fact, he made me wise, a quality which helped me pass on some great learning to my two daughters, Devyani and Ananya.”

Sinha, who says his father taught him to love, adds, ‘People around you can land in trouble and that is when you are tested. Always do your best. Life, he’d say, is always about principles and a person must never compromise with his beliefs in the face of adversity. He believed that consistent hard work always pays. Today, I realise he was right.”

SPIRITUAL GUIDANCE

A linguist and commentator based in the United States, Avatans Kumar says that his “father is old school.” With ‘spare the rod and spoil the child’ as his motto, in his toughness lies his tenderness,” he adds.

“As a man of the ‘Swatantra Bharat’ generation, my dad knew the importance of hard work and education. He ensured we knew that as well. He is also my first spiritual guru. He gave me the gift of the teachings of Swami Vivekananda. From my father, I have learned to always do my best. I try to be true to my dharma, including my dharma as the father of my daughter Adya.”

UNDERSTANDING RIGHT AND WRONG

Vijay Kumar Singh, who works with the Ministry of Finance, remembers life in the 1980s when kids responded to their father’s presence in a predictable manner.

Singh, who has two sons, Kushagra and Kinshuk, says,”Children during that period were respectful and occasionally scared. I wasn’t an exception. There was no logical reason for fear because my father gave me the liberty to do what I wanted to. Somehow, however, the point of reference was what my father would think was the right thing to do. This probably had to do with the values he inculcated in me and the way he had responded to the changing behavioural norms around him.”

Today’s kids seem to understand their fathers pretty early in life, ‘which is not a bad thing’ according to him. He adds, “I hope my kids develop a sense of right and wrong on their own without me having to impose my ideas on them. This is what I had learned from my father.”

The father is one of our earliest teachers. He may not guide and assess us in classrooms. But he gives meaningful lessons about life at home, which live on in our minds forever.

Father’s Day is that day when we acknowledge his role with respect and admiration. Have a great day.