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How Sonali Bendre juggled the ‘curveball’ life threw at her

The actress had then gone to New York for treatment, and now is back in Mumbai. We take a look back at her journey in attempting to defeat the deadly disease.

Earlier this year, in July, Sonali Bendre took to social media to announce that she has been diagnosed with “high-grade cancer that has metastised.”

The actress had then gone to New York for treatment, and now is back in Mumbai. We take a look back at her journey in attempting to defeat the deadly disease.

She wrote, “Sometimes when you least expect it, life throws you a curveball. I have recently been diagnosed with high-grade cancer that has metastasized, which we frankly did not see coming. A niggling pain led to some tests, which led to this unexpected diagnosis. My family and close friends have rallied around me, providing the best support system that anyone can ask for. I am very blessed and thankful for each of them.”

Also read: Sonali Bendre diagnosed with ‘high-grade cancer’

Metastatic cancer has the name as primary cancer and happens when breast cancer spreads to the lungs. This breast cancer is then referred to as metastatic breast cancer and not lung cancer. The treatment for this metastatic breast cancer will be the same as stage four breast cancer and not lung cancer.

At times, doctors are unable to tell where the cancer started in people diagnosed with metastatic cancer. This type of cancer is termed as cancer of unknown primary origin.

The actress, just days after revealing she has cancer, took to Instagram sharing a smiling photo of herself — a new photo in which she has a short hairdo — along with a beautiful message. She said that she is taking one day at a time even as every minute comes with its own challenges and victories. She also shared a video on her official Twitter handle, with the hashtag #SwitchOnTheSunshine:

She received a lot of love, support, care and prayers from her friends, family and fans, but it was her 12-year-old son Ranveer Behl who she draws most of her courage from.

The actress took to Instagram and shared a photo with Ranveer, mentioning how important it is to involve kids in the family situation. She also said that it is her son who “switch on the sunshine” in her as she battles with cancer in New York.

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From the moment he was born 12 years, 11 months and 8 days ago, my amazing @rockbehl took ownership of my heart. From then on, his happiness and wellbeing have been the centre of anything @goldiebehl and I ever did. And so, when the Big C reared its ugly head, our biggest dilemma was what and how we were going to tell him. As much as we wanted to protect him, we knew it was important to tell him the full facts. We’ve always been open and honest with him and this time it wasn’t going to be different. He took the news so maturely… and instantly became a source of strength and positivity for me. In some situations now, he even reverses roles and takes on being the parent, reminding me of things I need to do! I believe that it’s imperative to keep kids involved in a situation like this. They are a lot more resilient than we give them credit for. It’s important to spend time with them and include them, rather than make them wait on the side-lines, not being told yet instinctively knowing everything. In our effort to protect them from the pain and realities of life, we might end up doing the opposite. I’m spending time with Ranveer right now, while he’s on summer vacation. His madness and shenanigans help me #SwitchOnTheSunshine. And today, we derive strength from each other #OneDayAtATime

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Sonali, while undergoing treatment in New York, shared another photo on Instagram with her best friends, Sussanne Khan and Gayatri Joshi. The post, shared on Sunday, also came with a foot-note: “Nowadays I spend far less time getting ready because I don’t have to fuss over my hair! #BaldIsBeautiful #FindThePositive #OneDayAtATime.”

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This is me. And in this moment, I am really happy. People give me strange looks when I say that now, but it's true and I'll tell you why. I am now paying attention to every moment, looking for every opportunity to find joy and #SwitchOnTheSunshine. Yes, there are moments of pain and low energy, but I am doing what I like, spending time with people I love, and feeling very loved and happy. I am extremely grateful to my friends, my pillars of strength, who at a moment's notice, arrived to be with me and help me through this. In between their busy schedules they find time to visit, call, message, FaceTime… basically never leaving a moment for me to feel alone. Thank you for showing me what true friendship is. #HappyFriendshipDay, ladies. Blessed to have you all in my life (including the ones not in the picture… You know who you are) @gayatrioberoi @suzkr P.S. Nowadays I spend far less time getting ready because I don't have to fuss over my hair! 😜#BaldIsBeautiful #FindThePositive #OneDayAtATime Picture credit: @hrithikroshan

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On her son’s 13th birthday, the actress shared a heartfelt and emotional post on her Instagram account. From Ranveer’s childhood to teenage, his mother managed to put together an array of photos to wish her ‘not-so-little-one.’

And while her fight with cancer continued in New York, she kept her fans updated about her treatment with social media posts and heartfelt messages:

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“I knew that if I allowed fear to overtake me, my journey was doomed. Fear, to a great extent, is born of a story we tell ourselves, and so I chose to tell myself a different story from the one women are told. I decided I was safe. I was strong. I was brave. Nothing could vanquish me.” – Cheryl Strayed, Wild. Over the past couple of months, I have had good days and bad ones. There have been days when I’ve been so exhausted and in so much pain that even lifting a finger hurt. I feel like sometimes it’s a cycle… one that starts off with physical pain and leads to mental and emotional pain. The bad days have been many… Post chemo, post-surgery and the like… where even just laughing hurts. Sometimes it felt like it took everything I’ve had to push past it… a minute to minute battle with myself. I got through it knowing that even though I was fighting a long drawn out, draining battle… it was one that was worth the fight. It’s important to remember that we’re allowed to have those bad days. Forcing yourself to be happy and cheerful all the time serves no purpose. Who are we being fake and putting on an act for? I allowed myself to cry, to feel the pain, to indulge in self-pity… for a short while. Only you know what you’re going through and it is fine to accept it. Emotions aren’t wrong. Feeling negative emotions isn’t wrong. But after a point, identify it, recognize it and refuse to let it control your life. It takes an immense amount of self-care to get out of that zone. Sleep always helps, or having my favourite smoothie after chemo, or just talking to my son. For now, as my treatment continues… my visual focus remains to just get better and get back home. It’s yet another test… Student all my life… Learning all my life… #OneDayAtATime 📷: @srishtibehlarya

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The actress also hung out with Priyanka Chopra, and thanked her for making her feel good since she she was missing her husband:

Sonali also made a friend Bokhee — a hairstylist and wigmaker — during her stay in New York:

All the while, Sonali kept her friends and fans updated about her health through social media and received a lot of appreciation for her courage. She recently attended Priyanka Chopra’s pre-wedding celebrations in New York along with Neetu Singh who too has been spending time with Rishi Kapoor who is taking treatment for his unknown disease.

Finally, after spending months in New York battling cancer, Sonali returned to Mumbai on Sunday, December 2. The actor wrote that it is a joy to see her friends and family again and share her journey.

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They say "Distance makes the heart grow fonder". It sure does. But let's never underestimate what distance teaches you. Being away from home in the city of New York, I realized I was walking amongst so many stories. Each trying to write their own chapter in different ways. Each struggling to do it but never giving up. Each taking it #OneDayAtATime. And now I'm on my way back to where my heart is. It's a feeling I can't describe in words but I'm going to try – it's the joy to see my family and friends again, the excitement to do what I love and mainly the gratitude for the journey I've had up until this moment. The fight is not yet over…but I'm happy and looking forward to this happy interval 🙂 It's time to learn that there is a new normal out there and I can't wait to embrace it and #SwitchOnTheSunshine. #NowPlaying #AdventureOfALifeTime🎵 And as my adventure with life continues these words by Chris Martin hit home, "Everything you want is a dream away. Under this pressure, under this weight We are diamonds taking shape…"

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This months-long journey has been quite hectic for the actress, while her fight against cancer is still on we wish her a speedy recovery.

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